We’ve all lied about our age, what we do for a living, how much money we make, etc. etc. during a first meeting/date. But why? Why do we lie to impress someone that, first of all, we might not ever meet or date again?

Be yourself. Tell them the truth. And if they’re not too shabby about what you do for a living, or how much income you make, or even what kind of car you really drive, then they’re probably not the right person for you.

Be honest. So what if your penis is only as big as a baby’s index finger? Err, maybe you shouldn’t want to just openly reveal that. But you guys get the point.

Anyways, for your info guys, don’t underestimate the power of women’s 6th sense. we can usually smell BS from a mile away. Thought I’d let you know. =)

It isn’t hard to be romantic, though I think some people take it the wrong way.

Being romantic doesn’t mean, expensive wine, flowers, or even trying to get the whole cast of Disney to help you propose to someone. Though getting the whole cast of Disney for a proposal is actually impressive, it doesn’t mean that you’re “romantic” just because of that gesture.

The key factor in being romantic is that you have to “understand” your partner. There are a lot of gimmicks out there on “how to be romantic”. C’mon, we’ve all seen the slow jam cd’s to get your partner in the mood and the famous “romantic” restaurant to take your date on. But what if your partner is into Star Treck conventions or rock concerts?

So you see, even if roses look nicer than tulips but she would rather have tulips, then buy her tulips! Duh! This is why understanding your partner and noticing their “likes” is a key factor in being romantic. And once you find it, you can work on it from there. =)

I must admit, I should take my own advice when it comes to self confidence, but heck, I’m working on it!

One key factor to better one’s self is self confidence.

First step into self confidence is to love yourself. Once you start loving yourself and love the person whom you are, you’ll realize that your self esteem will dramatically improve. Thus, having a better sex life because seriously, nothing is sexier than self confidence right?

Lets face it, couples argue. Some like to avoid it, others thrive to start it.

Lets focus on the couples that detest arguing…. Based on experience and what others say is to try to, “keep it cool.” Listen to each other. When one person is heated and the other person is heated, the argument will definitely go nowhere but in circles. To avoid this, one must try to stay calm and collected while the other one vents. Thus whatever the situation, it can be mended by talking things out calmly. Seriously, there’s no need to yell and scream. Sure it feels good at the time but trust me, sometimes yelling and screaming will do nothing for you. It definitely won’t solve anything.

So take a deep breath, relax, listen to what the other person has to say before you put in your opinions. If you’re feeling hot-headed, be honest in telling the other person that you want to take a 10 minute break outside to recollect your thoughts before approaching the problem.

Remember, if the other person is yelling or screaming, there’s probably no sense in telling them to quiet down, it just might piss them off more. In that case, let them talk. When the time is right, then you can say your peace.

The 3 most powerful words that people have a hard time saying is, “I love you”. They are just words, we know, but for some of us, it’s very powerful because it means so much AND for some people it seems to “change things”.

Once you say, “I love you”, things become different. You now know where things stand, things begin to seem clearer. You now know that the road to engagement and marriage may be ahead for you. Even though your partner might FEEL the words, he/she may therefore be really afraid of SAYING those words, because of the permanent commitment they imply. Some people feel, once the words are spoken, that the relationship is different, and that you both might start acting much differently.

Look at your yourself and your own feelings. How do you feel about the other person? Do you think he/she feels the same? Do you think things will be different if you said those 3 words to your partner? And, does this mean you should start thinking of moving in together, even possibly consider marriage?

Sit down, have a quiet conversation with your partner. Ask them how they feel about the relationship. Once you know where things are headed, things will come much more smoothly.

Remember when you first met your spouse? Remember the feeling of having “butterflies” and that feeling of euphoria every time your eyes connected?

…well, why not rekindle that spark you once had with your spouse?

Go ahead and flirt with your spouse! Flirting is a way of noticing someone, of conveying the fact that you find that person interesting and attractive. Sometimes, in a long term relationship, we take each other for granted, thus the relationship becomes boring and there’s the feeling of resentment.

Some suggestions:
*Wear something he likes
*Whisper flirtatious remarks in her ear
*Tell him something you appreciate about him
*Run your fingers through her hair
*Gaze into each others eyes

There are different ways of flirting with your spouse and I’m sure all of you have unique ideas. So why not try?

Ok, it’s proven ladies that guys usually like to have sex almost everyday! Sometimes even twice a day if you’re lucky.

To keep your “love life” alive, plan a night once a week for romance! Just the two of you… consider it a “date night”. Watch a movie together, have dinner, try something spontaneous, whatever it is, just remember that you’ll have something to look forward to when you get home!

And when you do get home, run a bath, bathe together. Give each other massages, role play if you have to! Just remember, this is YOUR night, one day of the week to be spontaneous together. Trust me, this will definitely heat things up in your love life.

And more importantly, this will prevent your partner to go astray.

We all know that breaking up is hard to do.

Sometimes we even end up saying the oddest things during a break-up. But we do this in efforts not to hurt the other person’s feelings or so that we don’t end up as, “the bad guy”.

With the bullshit aside, there’s seriously no other way to break up with someone without feeling bad or feeling like a major asshole. Though saying the wrong things can definitely make things worse.

What shouldn’t you say?

* Anything that compares the person you’re breaking up with to an ex or to a new person you’ve met
* Talking about how difficult getting over the break up will be for you
* Pointing out how this whole idea is really in the other person’s best interest
* Making the famous distinction between loving someone vs. being “in love”
* Stating you’re no longer interested but you’d like to keep the benefit or convenience of the sex

There are no perfect words to draw on when ending a relationship. Instead, let’s lay out some break up lines to avoid:

* I’m interested in someone else. You’d really like him/her.
* You can’t imagine how hard this is for me.
* I just don’t want you to get too attached.
* I don’t feel that way about you, but the sex has been really good.
* I’m getting married this weekend so I won’t be able to see you anymore.
* Trust me, I’m doing you a favor.
* I need to find myself.
* Right now I don’t feel like I can give you what you need.
* I’ve been doing a lot of thinking….
* I don’t want to be together anymore, but we can still have sex if you want.
* I love you, but I’m not “in love” with you.
* It’s not you, it’s me.

Don’t be shy about letting your partner know what you want and how you want it. One of the best ways to ensure a passionate and lasting sex life is to establish a habit of giving and accepting verbal feedback.

Be careful. Sexual technique is a sensitive subject for a lot of people. Make sure when you talk to your partner about this, they don’t have misconceptions. Most likely they’ll think that they’re doing something wrong and is not pleasing you sexually.

Remember, YOU are the expert at knowing exactly what makes you feel good. A good partner will not take it personally, but will take your teachings to heart. So share with them your “secrets” on what gets you off. Trust me, you’ll always be satisfied.

For those of you who can’t or don’t know how to flirt, follow the things I’m about to explain. Mind you, they might not work for everyone but hey, give it a try, you never know!

Ok so for many people, the thrill of flirting is simply receiving attention. To get that attention, you have to give it. Try flirting without having to touch the other person. Eye contact is good. Also, try standing a little closer than normal, facing the person when he or she is speaking. Figure out something to say to the other person. Something that would interest the other person. If you can’t find anything to say, start off with, “Wow, I love your shirt.” Then wait for some kind of response before you send another signal. If the person backs away, frowns, folds arms or starts flirting with someone else, don’t make things worse by following him/her around. You’ve got your answer.

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