We all know that breaking up is hard to do.

Sometimes we even end up saying the oddest things during a break-up. But we do this in efforts not to hurt the other person’s feelings or so that we don’t end up as, “the bad guy”.

With the bullshit aside, there’s seriously no other way to break up with someone without feeling bad or feeling like a major asshole. Though saying the wrong things can definitely make things worse.

What shouldn’t you say?

* Anything that compares the person you’re breaking up with to an ex or to a new person you’ve met
* Talking about how difficult getting over the break up will be for you
* Pointing out how this whole idea is really in the other person’s best interest
* Making the famous distinction between loving someone vs. being “in love”
* Stating you’re no longer interested but you’d like to keep the benefit or convenience of the sex

There are no perfect words to draw on when ending a relationship. Instead, let’s lay out some break up lines to avoid:

* I’m interested in someone else. You’d really like him/her.
* You can’t imagine how hard this is for me.
* I just don’t want you to get too attached.
* I don’t feel that way about you, but the sex has been really good.
* I’m getting married this weekend so I won’t be able to see you anymore.
* Trust me, I’m doing you a favor.
* I need to find myself.
* Right now I don’t feel like I can give you what you need.
* I’ve been doing a lot of thinking….
* I don’t want to be together anymore, but we can still have sex if you want.
* I love you, but I’m not “in love” with you.
* It’s not you, it’s me.

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